6 Blessings In Motherhood To Remember

“EVERYTHING HAS CHANGED, YET I AM MORE ME THAN I’VE EVER BEEN.” -IAIN THOMAS

Here at Bloome, we have real — oftentimes uncomfortably raw — conversations about motherhood and postpartum. 

These topics can be delicate, eye-opening, and much-needed for mothers who are struggling to feel normal during this incredibly transformative time. 

While motherhood can be intense and unrelenting, it can also be the source of deep, unconditional love. Motherhood opens up your heart in ways you didn’t think were possible. It changes who you are as a person, shifts your priorities, and teaches you life’s most humbling lessons. 

When you’re overwhelmed and in survival mode, it can be so tough to see past the fog — to see the light at the end of the tunnel. 

Everyone is telling you that it’ll get easier, but for you, every day is much harder than the last. Motherhood is a universal experience, but the journey is unique for every woman. 

You may not be able to see it when you’re struggling, but you are a good mom. 

You are learning and growing as you go, becoming a stronger version of yourself. 

Here are 6 blessings of motherhood to always remember when your heart is feeling heavy.  

1. Motherhood Allows You To Appreciate The Smaller Moments 

We’re usually so busy with check-lists and to-do’s that we often miss the precious moments that make motherhood totally amazing and that are hard to get back...because it all goes by way too fast.  

That feeling when you watched them take their first step. 

The first time you saw how they valiantly lifted their head while doing tummy time. 

That very first smile… or when they first grabbed your finger. 

That moment when you decided that this time with your baby was sacred, and you allowed yourself to live in these quieter moments.  

Your heart fills with so much joy that it feels like it’s going to burst.  

THIS is what you’ll remember... always.  

2. Motherhood Reveals Your Inner-Strength  

No one can do what you do. 

Even on the hardest, most frustrating of days... 

You still show up. You deal with another tantrum. 

You still bring comfort to your child. You collect yourself, regardless of how tired or agitated you feel, and you envelop your child in calmness. 

You still love with your whole heart. 

Despite how tired you feel emotionally and physically, you keep going anyway. 

Motherhood tests us in different ways, but it also reveals the inner strength that we might have not known was even there.   

Mama, you’re so powerful. 

3. Motherhood Teaches You Patience   

So much of motherhood is about waiting. 

Waiting for your baby to arrive.  

Waiting to finally take your precious bundle home. 

Waiting to achieve important milestones. 

The days are long. The nights can be even longer. But as time goes on, your patience grows and becomes more flexible.  

More accepting.  

More forgiving. 

It’s a gradual change in you — patience doesn’t come overnight. But eventually, you’ll begin to notice the differences in your approach to situations that would normally leave you exasperated. As your patience stretches, it’ll start to seep into other areas of your life, making you a much more understanding person. 

4. Motherhood Nurtures Compassion For Yourself And Others  

Becoming a mother makes us more empathic.  

When we see a toddler acting up in a store, or when another mom is desperately trying to comfort her crying infant in a public space, we feel compassion.  

Because now, we get it. 

We know exactly what that’s like. 

And we know just how draining and defeating it can be.  

So we offer kindness instead of judgment — a look of deep understanding or acknowledgment that being a parent is so damn tough. The one that affirms you’re not alone in this crazy, beautiful chaos. 

Our children teach us more than we realize. It can just be hard to see when you’re struggling.     

Motherhood is hard but our hearts are softening. Not only for others but for ourselves as well.  

5. Motherhood Demonstrates Humility 

There will be a moment in motherhood when you’ll probably face a humbling reality:  

You have no idea what you’re doing.  

The struggle is real. 

Even though you felt so confident before — so prepared — the reality of motherhood can take you by surprise. 

How many times have you said, “Why didn’t anyone tell me?!”  Ugh! The good news is, no one knows what they’re doing.

And when it feels like you’re getting the hang of things, your baby hits a new developmental stage, and BAM... new needs and challenges bring you right back around to this: 

I still don’t know what I’m doing.  

But here’s the truth, mama. You’re dealing with things better than you ever have before.  

You now approach difficult situations with more grace and groundedness because you’re wiser, more patient, and humbled by your experiences, so you’re not so easily defeated.  

6. Motherhood Encourages Presence    

The gift of presence in any situation gives you back your control.  

Being present means realizing when you’re leaning into distractions, such as social media, to escape how overwhelmed you’re feeling. 

Being present means noticing how disengaged and frustrated you’ve become when your children continuously demand your attention.  

It’s about taking charge of your time and deciding who and what deserves your energy. 

This presence also encourages self-care and self-reflection.

It comes in any way that suits our needs — like waking up early to do something that brings us joy or finding time to exercise — and fits into our busy schedules. 

It’s one of the most transformative and humbling lessons we learn as mothers: that in order to take care of others, we need to take care of ourselves.  

And once we do, we can finally let go of our guilt and feel at peace. 

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Happy October, mama.  

We hope that you’re feeling supported this month — and every month — as we get closer to the end of this year. 

You are supported here — in this safe space — when you need someone that’ll understand what you’re going through without any fear of judgment.  

We know how hard it can be to consistently deal with such powerful, overwhelming emotions. We’re right there with you. 

If you’re interested in any of our programs but aren’t sure where to start, we have a pretty handy partnership with SJ Health Insurance Advocates. If you don’t already know, our programs are all insurance-based. This is so that you can fully focus on your emotional and mental well-being without wondering if it’s even financially feasible. 

Check it out here, and get this process demystified so that you can begin your recovery.  

You deserve it. 

Always in your corner, team Bloome.