7 Motherhood Confessions in Postpartum

Sometimes, it’s hard to describe how you’re feeling in postpartum.  

Some of it is happy, but you’re struggling to adjust to this new stage in life. 

The beginning of motherhood is a giant adjustment period. You’re evolving and growing, transforming with each lesson learned.  

But it can be such a heavy experience for some women. 

It can be especially challenging when you scroll through social media and find only picturesque versions of motherhood that sharply contradict your own experience.  

It leaves you wondering what the hell you’ve done wrong that has made it so your expectations don’t match up to reality. 

There’s just so many emotions - so much of it conflicting. 

How can you feel so fulfilled, and yet be so incredibly frustrated and lonely at the same time?  

You want to tell someone that things are hard for you - tougher than you thought’d it be - but you don’t want anyone to know that you’re having less than positive thoughts about becoming a mom. 

And that’s because you’re afraid to be judged -  afraid of what others may think of you…  

Mama, you’re not alone on this journey. 

Other moms just like you are experiencing this, too. 

It’s our mission to give you an honest and candid view into motherhood - the one that often goes unspoken, but the one that mamas need to hear.   

Here are the seven most common motherhood confessions that postpartum mamas can relate to. 

1. I didn’t love my baby right away.  

Sometimes, love doesn’t come right away.  

Sometimes, it’s not love at first sight.  

And that’s okay.  

Sometimes, it starts with a “nice to meet you.”  

As you get to know your baby - and especially the first time you see their beautiful smile or hear that amazing little laugh, you’ll feel the love that you didn’t think was possible.  

So many mothers don’t like to admit this in the beginning. As a society, we’re conditioned to believe that love comes immediately, and somehow, we naturally know how to be a parent. 

We’d know what to do and when to do it. 

This simply isn’t true.  

This is a new stage of life that we learn to embrace - one that we open up our hearts to. 

It’s okay if that doesn’t come right away. 

2. I miss my old life. 

As with all new beginnings, the novelty of motherhood can have us reminiscing about our old lives. 

All the freedom and liberties we took for granted…  

We could do what we wanted. 

Instead, life gets pretty chaotic with a newborn.  

New routines.  

New lifestyle. 

New challenges.  

It’s easy to crave the life we once had. And that’s because it was familiar and wholly ours.  

Missing your old life is normal, mama. On the hardest days, it can be all that you think about. But the life you’re building, the one that is slowly coming together, will be your most fulfilling.  

It will get better. It’ll take time and a whole lot of patience, but you will get there.  

3. I want my alone time back.  

There will be certain things that trigger you in motherhood, especially if you’re struggling with postpartum. 

Loud noises… 

Crying… 

No opportunities to recharge your batteries… 

At the end of the day, all you want is some quiet time where you can be alone with your thoughts without having someone needing something from you. 

Have time to slow down and recharge is so essential in motherhood. We must never underestimate how important it is to take care of our emotional and mental well-being. 

Taking care of us IS taking care of your family. 

This is hard to achieve in the early stages of newborn life. Some things only mama can do. But if you can, find the space to step away and take a few deep breaths. 

Enjoy the stillness, or do whatever brings you some joy, no matter how small. 

4. I’m lonely.  

I know what you’re thinking, mama. How can you be lonely when you a tiny human attached to you 24/7? 

This is mostly because your baby is likely not talking to you yet. Or even showing much interaction at all. 

You crave company and companionship, yet it’s so hard to have friends - or anyone for that matter -  over right now. 

When mothers are struggling with loneliness, it can make them feel isolated from everything.   

Mothers need their village. 

5. Sometimes, I just want to run away.  

It’s difficult to not have this thought when things are so hard on your heart. 

Everything is so unfamiliar. You’re feeling a level of weariness you didn’t think was possible.  

It would just be easier if you could get away from it all. 

This is a glaring sign that you need MORE support, mama. 

6. I wasn’t ready to become a mother.  

Oof. 

This thought tends to happen when you’re feeling particularly overwhelmed. 

When your patience runs thin… 

When you start to say and do things that you swore you’d never do when you became a mom. 

And afterward, you’re crushed beneath the guilt, feeling ashamed. 

We’re here to tell you that no one is ready to become a parent. 

No amount of preparation can truly make you “ready.” 

We learn as we go, trusting that we’re making the best decisions we can. 

You’re doing an amazing job. 

7. I hate breastfeeding.  

Yes, breastfeeding is hard.  

It can be painful… 

It can be completely discouraging... 

It’s okay to hate it, mama. 

You make the decision that’s best for you and your baby no matter what that looks like. 

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Mama, we are here as another pillar of support for you on this journey through motherhood.  

Because it was not meant to be done alone. 

Needing more support is something you should never feel shame over. 

But we know just how much easier said that is than done. 

This is your journey - full of highs and lows.  

But we want to remind you of this: 

Taking care of yourself means taking care of your entire family.  

Here at Bloome, we are another resource - a safe space for you with professionals who truly understand what you’re going through. 

Don’t be afraid to lean into the help you need to recover and find joy in your parenting journey. 

Book a FREE consultation with us here. 

You deserve it.